Loving Yourself On Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day is just around the corner. It’s not even valentine’s day yet but we’re already seeing pink and red Valentine’s day stuff at every store we go to.

Is there any day that serves to remind single people just how single they are quite like Valentine’s Day?

The answer is no. There absolutely is not.

While “Galentine’s Day” and Singles Awareness Day are all fine and good, there’s a lot of unnecessary shame surrounding being single on Valentine’s Day.

Well, I’m here to let you know Valentine’s Day isn’t just about receiving a dozen roses and calling it a day.


It can be scary to do hard things by yourself, but it can also be really empowering. Whether you’ve never been on an airplane alone, gone to a museum solo, or slept in your house without your roomies — sometimes being brave can feel freaking awesome. You’ll learn new things about yourself, and get to experience so much. Valentine’s Day is also about loving yourself. And in case you’re struggling with the whole self-love thing,


Practice meditation and yoga

There is no better way to say “I love you” than investing time in listening to yourself, getting to know who you really are, and learning what truly brings you happiness. Yoga and meditation both offer us a way to do these things.

Take yourself on a date

If you’re open to spending a little money this Valentine’s Day, here’s what we recommend: Think of what your perfect date this would be — where you would go, what you would do, what you would eat, etc., and then do it yourself! The beauty of taking yourself on a date is that you get to do EXACTLY what you enjoy.

Cook a fabulous meal for yourself

Cooking for one, when that “one” is yourself, is something that many people struggle to find the motivation to do. When we think about making a meal for ourselves, we often think, “Why put so much time and energy into cooking when it’s only for me?” And this is a problem. When we think of ourselves as “only me,” we are diminishing our self-worth. Here’s the thing: You are worth it! This Valentine’s Day, practice loving yourself by cooking a very healthy and delicious meal, and then enjoying every bite.

Avoid perfectionism

Have you been reading this list and trying to plan the “perfect me date”? Hopefully you’re not missing out on all the fun by stressing about it. There’s no need to put undue pressure on yourself!

Perfectionism can be a valued commodity in the workplace. It shouldn’t carry over to your personal life, or to how you measure your own success. Self-proclaimed perfectionist are at a higher risk for anxiety, depression, and report lower self-esteem than those that aren’t.

Feel free to refer back to item 7, and forgive yourself for your perceived shortcomings. Chances are, you’re more successful and effective than you give yourself credit for.

This day is about doing something for you, but life happens sometimes. If you make a plan and it doesn’t go exactly how you’d imagined, roll with it! You’ll love yourself even more for it.

Do things that make you feel good (singing, dancing, etc…)

All of the suggestions on this list ultimately lead to one goal: taking action to love yourself. Say none of the ideas above struck your fancy – then do your own thing!

If you look forward to going dancing or singing on the weekend, or already scheduled a nice bubble bath and a good book, don’t let us derail your plans. The whole concept is to practice self love on a day you might not feel particularly special.

Finally, remind yourself that Valentine’s Day is just a day. You don’t need an excuse to love yourself first, but a national holiday is just as good a reason as any other.

Here are my favorite quotes about loving yourself.

…and the even wiser words of Carrie Bradshaw.


Valentine’s Day is often about loving others, but this year, let’s make it about loving ourselves.

Sincerley, Curlyhairgurlwithablog

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Still I Rise

You may write me down in history With your bitter, twisted lies, You may trod me in the very dirt But still, like dust, I’ll rise.
Does my sassiness upset you? Why are you beset with gloom? ‘Cause I walk like I’ve got oil wells Pumping in my living room.
Just like moons and like suns, With the certainty of tides, Just like hopes springing high, Still I’ll rise.
Did you want to see me broken? Bowed head and lowered eyes? Shoulders falling down like teardrops.
Weakened by my soulful cries.
Does my haughtiness offend you? Don’t you take it awful hard ‘Cause I laugh like I’ve got gold mines Diggin’ in my own back yard.
You may shoot me with your words, You may cut me with your eyes, You may kill me with your hatefulness, But still, like air, I’ll rise.
Does my sexiness upset you? Does it come as a surprise That I dance like I’ve got diamonds At the meeting of my thighs? Out of the huts of history’s shame I rise Up from a past that’s rooted in pain I rise I’m a black ocean, leaping and wide, Welling and swelling I bear in the tide.
Leaving behind nights of terror and fear I rise Into a daybreak that’s wondrously clear I rise Bringing the gifts that my ancestors gave, I am the dream and the hope of the slave.
I rise I rise I rise.

maya angelou

Everyone Deserves A Little Help

Dear WordPress, On 2017 My mother was diagnosed with breast cancer, She went thru radiation and complications with that treatment after she had a double mastectomy. Last year after retuning to work my mother got injured at her job and have to change the type of work she usually does but then this year she got laid off. She is continuosly looking for work and had already 5 interviews. she has more interviews coming week. My created this Gofundme page 2 months because she was diagnosed with Bell’s Pasly on november and she still getting working on that and this is taken time. My mom needs a little help because all her savings are gone.

https://www.gofundme.com/e4jnx-surviving?teamInvite=6nEgknKrTXg2hd57uesM8YZ3xuCk51c7tSXxHS1ViiyMMbQ2EgcVuUbkSIHZFTmb

My mom would like to raise 2,000-5,000 until she finds a job. Anything helps!

Sincerely, Curlyhairgurlwithablog

SOLITUDE

Laugh, and the world laughs with you;
Weep, and you weep alone.
For the sad old earth must borrow its mirth,
But has trouble enough of its own.
Sing, and the hills will answer;
Sigh, it is lost on the air.
The echoes bound to a joyful sound,
But shrink from voicing care.

Rejoice, and men will seek you;
Grieve, and they turn and go.
They want full measure of all your pleasure,
But they do not need your woe.
Be glad, and your friends are many;
Be sad, and you lose them all.
There are none to decline your nectared wine,
But alone you must drink life’s gall.

Feast, and your halls are crowded;
Fast, and the world goes by.
Succeed and give, and it helps you live,
But no man can help you die.
There is room in the halls of pleasure
For a long and lordly train,
But one by one we must all file on
Through the narrow aisles of pain.

New Year, New Beginings!

2018 wasn’t really a good year for me. Hopefully this year will be a better year.

MY GOALS FOR THIS YEAR.

  1. Graduate school
  2. lose weight
  3. read more books
  4. be more content
  5. Eat healthier

I hope that in this year to come, you make mistakes. Because if you are making mistakes, then you are making new things, trying new things, learning, living, pushing yourself, changing yourself, changing your world. You’re doing things you’ve never done before, and more importantly, you’re doing something.

How to reach your goals?


Look at it. A goal that you can actually see is massively more powerful than a goal you write down on a checklist. This is a favorite technique of mine and it works very well if you’re a visual learner.

Every year, a friend of mine spreads magazines all over her living room and invites her girlfriends over for a “vision board” party. Vision boards are comprised of pictures (from the magazines) that motivate the creator of that board. Want to lose weight? Cut out a pic of a bikini clad model (don’t pick a model that’s totally out of your league, be realistic). Want to make more money? Cut out a pic that speaks to you on that level. You get the idea.

Tell people

Making yourself accountable to your friends and family is one of the best ways to reach your goals. Sure, it’s uncomfortable to share your setbacks. But when you do, you’re going to get emails from friends who have experienced the same and they’ll get your mind back on track. And when you tell them about the milestones you reach, you’re going to get applause from people wishing they were you and reaching those same goals too.

When you tell people your goals, they will jump in the boat with you and help you get there. You will be shocked by the support you’ll get from your network. You’ll be even more surprised by the people who come out of the woodwork to join you in your journey or privately cheer you on, knowing what you’re going through.


Break it up.

Many people abandon goals because they’re just too dang big. If you’ve done this to yourself, stop now. Change your game plan.

Take for instance the goal of becoming your own boss. It’s a noble goal, but if you’re a cubicle dweller, it’s a hefty one. So break it up into bite-sized chunks.

Set a date. 

One of the best ways to knock out a goal is to put it on your calendar. If you put a stake in the ground and impose a date on yourself, you’re much more likely to reach it.

Do you want to run your first marathon? That’s awesome, but it’s useless if you don’t even know which one, when or where. So before you buy those pretty pink shoes, join a running team or even get off the couch, I recommend you just suck it up and sign up for the actual race.

Be realistic.
I’m sure if I asked everyone here, you’d all be just as interested in magically obtaining a bazillion dollars or finding the cure for cancer as I would.

Commit to yourself.

Last but not least, there’s only one person in this goal-setting process that matters. You. You’re the one who has to put the hours in at the gym. You’re the one who needs to stay late at the office to finish that task for your boss so you can score the promotion. You’re the only one receiving the paycheck that will eventually pay you out of credit card debt. It’s all on you, my friend. Commit to yourself and then re-commit yourself each time you fall (because that definitely happens along the way).

This is the end of this post. I wish you positivity and happiness for this year.

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