Nowadays it’s easy to find and get everything we want and need We deliver foods , we shop oniline and we find a partner online. Thus Tinder and dating apps is hardly original back in the 1980s telephone bars, in that phone flirting precedes face-to-face interaction.
Here are three different dating types:
The OG of dating websites/app
The dating/ hookup apps
Meeting organically online websites
This is where you’re not actively seeking out a relationship or a random hookup you’re just using the internet and seeing what’s out there. You can meet anyone anywhere like Instagram and tumblr.
Monthly active users
Dating apps have given us to many options that it has killed the college and dating scene because it’s so easy to swipe left and right on a seemingly endless pile of partners, it’s harder to meet someone. It has gotten us spoiled for when it has gotten us to seeking a relationship. But today, sometimes people go on dating to finds friends from all over the world but also it depends on demographics on the way people behave. For example, back in the day, it used to be more common for people to stay in their hometown maybe you would marry your high school sweetheart at 18 and have a bunch of kids. That very uncommon today with a lot more people moving away from college and then moving to a big city you end up in a new place where you don’t know anybody You may not even have any mutual friends, how the heck are you going to meet people THE INTERNET BABY!! ❤✌💋
Why does people use dating app
Well, first of all, we are lonely and shy, and we don’t have the same social infrastructure that people used to and this applies to everything by making friends and trying to find a partner. I think people are more accessible online than in person so its the easiest way for us to do this.
Photos and Profiles
The problem with these apps is that they focus only on an aspect which is how we look. and it not only that it how we look at a photo. In an ideal world, we would hope that most people would pick the best of the most accurate photo of themselves but we don’t live an ideal world there are people literally posting 20-year-old photo of themselves, pretending that what they look like today.
Dating apps gives us *to many* options
At first, it’s amazing and exhilibrating but as you continue you get a little numb to it, you get bored. if you were in a bar, you would have an infinite number of people that you could say hi to but on dating apps it limitless you could sit on the day and swipe left and right and all night long.
How does dating app affect our self-esteem
I think if your getting a lot matches, a lot of complications and messages obvisously that a gonna be an ego-bost and it may, temporaily, lift your self-esteem. If your not getting many matches, not many replies, that could hurt your self-esteem.
And my last suggestion which may be…difficult is to maybe TRY and to meet people in person, just somehow not nesccarliy, but just like, chat up the local cutie in you coffee shop even if you are saying, ”Hey I like your shirt!”, it helps! it may help you gain confidence and remind yourself that you need to people in person.
whoever it was that said” time flies when you’re having fun” was only half right. The truth is that time flies …. whether you’re having fun or not. There are twenty-four hours in each day, and if we spend eight hours to fill with activity. Before we can think about what we might do to make those sixteen hours at least as satisfying as our eight hours of slumber, we need to take a close look at the activites that occupy our time.
REMINDER: Simple doesn’t mean easy. Some of the simplest things to do are often the most difficult.
Here’s the seven guiding priciples and reflect upon how you can apply them to what you’ve observed about your week.
#1 Relax your standards .
#2. Free yourself of stereotypical roles.
#3. Take time to figure out what you find most satisfying
#4 Creating time for the things you care about
#5 Learn to Enjoy what’s in frontt of you
#6 Learn to be fliexable
Here’s all the productivity tips you need:
Don’t watch T.V (or at least, minimize your intake of entertainment drastically).
Identify all the distractions in your life, and without a magic wand, eliminate them. Have trouble eliminating them? I know why: Fear.
Ask yourself why you log onto Facebook 100 times a day, or ask yourself why you go on Twitter 200 times a day.
Focus on the things that help you grow as a person — learning, reading, gaining experience, doing your work.
Exercise your craft daily, whatever it may be. No days off.
If you attend meetings, keep it short, simple, and have a specified goal. No goal = hour long meeting of procrastination and a bunch of fearful individuals.
Lao Tzu said it best:
Time is a created thing. To say ‘I don’t have time,’ is like saying, ‘I don’t want to’.
Do you: Stop focusing and worrying about how other people live their life. Life becomes a whole lot better when you learn to shut out the outside noise, and focus on the noise going on in your own mind.
This man says it better:
A key point to bear in mind: The value of attentiveness varies in proportion to its object. You’re better off not giving the small things more time than they deserve. — Marcus Aurelius
Be kind: It’s simple. If no one likes you, you probably won’t get too far in life.
Don’t criticize: There’s a quote in one of my favorite books, The Great Gatsby:
Whenever you feel like criticizing anyone, just remember that all the people in this world haven’t had the advantages that you’ve had.
Yes, Huston, we have a problem, being addicted to our phones. Instead of technology improving our lives it has become the biggest source of trouble is that device that’s with you wherever you go.
People spend an 1-3 hours in our phones. In pre-smart phone-era was just 18 minutes.
Are We Phone Junkies?
It’s the first thing we grab in morning when we wake up and it’s the last thing we touch at night. Because the average American ends up reaching for their phone 80 times a day. I’ll admit it: I check my smartphone compulsively. And the more I use it, the more often the urge to look at it hits me.
Studies have shown that spending too much time on your phone is bad for your focus and mental health.
As 2019 kicks off, there are some easy ways to build better digital habits.
Try turning off notifications, kicking your phone out of your bedroom and even turning on grayscale.
Keep yourself on a schedule
Start with every 15 minutes, then move to every half hour, every 45 minutes, or every hour. When your alarm sounds, spend one minute going through any and all notifications and then reset the timer.
Turn off as many push notifications as possible
Take distracting apps off your home screen
Get Some Distance
Be completely honest with yourself. You should not do things like charging your phone between the time you’ve set and feeling happy on achieving the goal in the end.
You’ll just be fooling yourself.
So be completely honest in this one and follow what you’ve set sincerely.
Now I’ve also been using this since past 15 months or so and more or less I am able to achieve this target because I love Chai and the risk of loosing in the following evening motivates me to achieve this target.
Finally, realize the addiction and the power you have over it. You break the loop. Feel pathetic? Stop using it. Addicted, still? Ask a mate to check your use. Check the health issues caused by the excessive use and assess the damage. That pretty much would jolt you from the use, if nothing else.
Thanks for reading! sincerely, Curlyhairgurlwithablog
Hey Guys Hey! I’m finally Back! I’m sorry I haven’t been posting on my blog! but i’m back!
On my last book review I said I was reading Eleanor Oliphant Is Completely Fine by Gail Honey Man
No one’s ever told Eleanor that life should be better than fine.
Meet Eleanor Oliphant: She struggles with appropriate social skills and tends to say exactly what she’s thinking. Nothing is missing in her carefully timetabled life of avoiding social interactions, where weekends are punctuated by frozen pizza, vodka, and phone chats with Mummy.
Thank you, Eleanor Oliphant. Thank you for picking me up out of my reading slump. Thank you for being so funny, so sad, so smart, so blunt. Thank you for being a literary character that will live forever in the hearts of (most) anyone that reads you.
I dare you not to think Elephant when you hear this title. This writer is so clever! but I must admit I was somewhat reluctant to read it. I’ve recently read several novels about social misfits like Eleanor and felt like I needed a break from that type of character.